Maybe it's cause I just had 2 games like that, Swirl, but I feel your pain. First one is me 54 dutch, a 35 french, and a 26 french against a german, british, and port (random teams). I figure easy win, even bad french players should be able to hold their own. Well the 35 french guy was actually pretty damn good, and I definitly did my part. But the 2nd french guy did absolutely nothing. He got "raided" by 3 uhlans at like the 6-7 minute mark while I was busy wrecking the german guys settlers with 10 skirms and had 10 more at my base defending.
So we fight them off, and my economy really gets going, I hit fortress then imperial by like the 10th minute. All the while buidling up a decent army of ruyters and skirms. And the good french guy was building cannons and cuirasseers. But the other french guy, he managed to build 10 nootka club men to go along with his 15 villis...
The other three came in, we fought them off for like 6 minutes, but finally just fled our base and went north (the snow map with lots of resources at the top) and me and the good french guy held off the other team for like 45 minutes even managing to take down 2 forward bases they built.
And our other french ally came north to join us, and managed this time to get his nootka back, and build about 4 great cannons.
Anyway so blah blah blah it was basically 2 on 3. And I still thought it was a gg. Till the end when the worst player on the other team called me a newb and challenged me 1v1. It was late, so I told him add me to his friends list, I'll do it tomorrow. No, he says, your a newb and you suck, blah blah blah. I was having a good time despite having a worthless teammate till this jerk spouted his mouth off.
And then the next game I played it was 3 v 4, but the 3 were all in the same clan and were all pros, like there was no reason for them to be playing us. But I was fine with that, I figured Id learn something, and I even think I did. I managed to raid them with 2 different groups of 10 skirms, killing a bunch of vills and keeping them away from resources as long as I could, and at the end around the 15 minute mark I had an army of 15 ruyters 20 skirms and 5 falcons, had taken down 2 of their TCs, and thought I played a decent game. And all I get from them is shut up newb you suck haha. Seriously, if your a pro then why would you feel it necessary to insult other players when they don't say anything to you. I even said "gg depsite being outmatched". And they just insult me. Like gee, thanks, I'm glad I played you guys....